Flatirons Counseling Services

Let Us Help You Live a Better Life

Should All Couples Use Marriage Counseling Services?

If you think about marriage counseling, you probably imagine a relationship that is breaking down. Perhaps one partner has had an affair, or, perhaps, there is simply no longer a spark. Couples counseling isn’t just for emergencies. It can bring major improvements to all aspects of a relationship, even when there is no imminent crisis. 

How can counseling help all couples to strengthen their bonds? Here, we look at some of the benefits it can offer. 

  1. Providing A Forum for Discussion

In all relationships, there are some occasions when you need somebody you can talk to. Even if you don’t need advice, you may just want somebody to hear what you have to say. All couples can benefit from a counselor to facilitate a forum for discussion. There will be times when all couples are unable to resolve an issue by themselves. Even when those issues aren’t causing a major problem in the partnership, it’s still helpful to see a therapist. Having a neutral person who can listen without any bias makes all the difference when it comes to resolving problems. It can also bring a new perspective to an issue.

  1. Gaining A Better Understanding of The Dynamics of the Relationship

Both partners bring something individual to a relationship, and those dynamics can be difficult to understand. Marriage counseling helps both partners to come to a better understanding of how the dynamics work between them. Communication holds the key to having an understanding relationship. A therapist can facilitate that communication and help both partners to balance their motivations.

  1. Providing A Safe Place 

Therapists aren’t biased to one partner or the other. Unlike friends or family members who will inevitably take sides, a therapist is a neutral party. There is no judgment during counseling, and this ensures that therapy is a safe place.

  1. Prevention Is Better Than Cure

Most people think counseling is something that couples only have when they’re ready to end their relationships. However, therapy is actually extremely helpful to ensure that nothing goes wrong in the relationship. It can address problems before they get out of hand. The rate of divorce stands at around 50 percent in first marriages. It is 67 percent in second marriages and 73 percent in third marriages. This strongly suggests that finding a form of prevention is vital. If couples seek counseling long before divorce is even a possibility, they can head it off at the pass. Too many couples wait too long to get marriage counseling. By taking action to prevent a crisis, couples can enjoy the positive benefits. They can pinpoint shortcomings and issues before they create vicious cycles and ongoing conflicts. The sooner a couple addresses those problems, the happier the marriage can be.

Therapy Is Not A Form of Punishment

All too often, therapy has a reputation of being a form of punishment. It’s what we do if we’ve done something wrong and need to fix it. Yet, counseling for couples actually focuses more on what each partner brings to the relationship. It centers around managing the differences between both parties. When couples learn those things at an early stage before bad habits have set in, they can avoid the pitfalls that make relationships challenging.